Being a housewife is a job, not role

It’s often said that being a housewife is a thankless job. There’s no real appreciation, no bonuses, no raise, and it’s non-stop from the time your eyes open in the morning to the moment they shut wearily at night.
But the fact is that many women see it as a family role not a job, and that’s where complacency, irritability and boredom sets in. For your life, home and marriage to be more dynamic, it’s time to change your headspace and give it the designation it deserves: a job! You are the official manager of your residence and its residents within, and to help you with your work you have your employees such as your maid, driver and cook.Your job description is to handle smooth functioning and delivery of tasty meals, laundry, handle purchases and distribution of goods. Does your husband go to work unkempt and in his pajamas? Similarly, when you roll out of bed, get ready for your job, bathed and well-dressed with your hair in place. Would your husband get job satisfaction and appreciation if he did the same page of work every day? Just as he needs to accomplish more, to reinvent and learn more in order to flourish in the workplace, you too need to put in the effort to be praise worthy. Attend cooking courses or try new recipes and cuisines from cookbooks. Learn napkin folding, table decoration, train your staff to dress well and be well mannered. It will be noticed and appreciated. The good part is that you can meet your friends over lunches, go get pampered at the parlour and afford the luxury of an afternoon nap while your hubby plods on at work. And remember the most important thing... to smile! There’s nothing more putting off than a sulky, nagging, depressed, bored person at the workplace.
I am a computer engineer working in Powai and my girlfriend works in the same office. I feel that she is always flirting with my friends. I have asked her not to, have told her I feel very hurt every time she gets close to other guys. She says that I am too jealous and I should give her space and not suffocate her. Please help me. Am I being very paranoid about her?
Perhaps you might be paranoid, and be reading more into her every smile, jovial attitude or friendly vibe so if it makes it easier to deal with, go get an unbiased third party opinion on the issue. However, remember, she did choose you as the man in her life so give her some rope, just not enough to hang herself with!
I am a 22-year-old man. My girlfriend dumped me for another guy, but now she claims that it was just infatuation. We were dating for about one year before she decided to break up. Should I give her another chance or do you think she will leave me again?
Whether infatuation or true love, fact is she dumped you. Perhaps you’d have understood if she left you for true love or a soul mate, but for an infatuation? She clearly doesn’t give the relationship you share much weight, thought or importance... and hence, neither should you.
I am an 18-year-old girl and my problem is that my 16-year-old sister dislikes me because I am a better student, while she isn’t all that good at her studies. The other problem is, I have many friends while she is an introvert. I think she has started resenting me too much. I don’t want our relationship to deteriorate any further. Do you think it is right for me to get my parents to mediate?
Absolutely! Not just to mediate but also to help her be her best and realise her full potential by putting her into better coaching classes, grooming glasses, personality development classes. Also, happy environments are conducive to healthy friendship so perhaps classes like dance, singing, where she can interact with others might be a good idea too.
My parents divorced recently, my dad is in another relationship, while my mother is still single. I like my dad quite a lot but I feel guilty when I spend a few days with him and have to leave my mom alone at home. My mom doesn’t like the fact that my father is already seeing someone and keeps asking me about it. What should I do?
He is entitled to move on and find love, and for that matter so is your mom. Tell your mom that you will not discuss dad’s life with her, not because there’s anything to hide, but because you want her to move on and that she too must find herself a wonderful man to give her love and companionship. Help her get into a fitness regime and make sure she is feeling and looking great. Everything else will take its own course from there.