Sensual massage for great sex!

Intoday's frantic world, most couples claim either to be too tired for sex or nothaving enough time. But, there's one way of turning your boring bedroom ritualinto an exotic pleasure.
Allyou need is a sensual and soothing massage as a precursor for greatsex.
"The significance of touch datesback to our very roots when we are in the womb, our mother's holding us,followed by childhood games with parents and friends all use touch therapy.Later in life, we tend to duplicate this in our cherished relations.A sexualmassage is an unusual way of maintaining closeness and can result in not onlyrelaxation, but a keener sense of intimacy to both partners," explains RatnaWohra, a Hyderabad-based relationship expert.
Whether you are married, are into along-term relationship or exploring a passionate evening with your newly foundlove, treating your beloved with a sensual massage helps in building trust andenjoying quality time together. What's more? When done in a composed ambiancewith affection flowing through your fingertips, a sensual massage helps healeven the most kaput relationships. We explore the magical world ofmassages...
Benefits of asensual massage!
"People may find it hard to believe, but a simple back and head massage done with lukewarm coconutoil, has brought about a deeper connection than any solitaire, car, fancy dinneror vacation can ever achieve," shares Deepshikha Roy, a 32-year-old boutiqueowner.
Undeniably, lovers who touch andtouch share a much closer bond than those who don't. The simple act of handholding, regular cuddling outside the sexual ambit builds an eternal bondbetween two people. "Couples who habitually engage in non-sexual, physicalcontact miss their partners more when they are apart. Massage is the ultimateway of conveying your feelings to your partner. Mastering the methods andtechniques of this intimate act improves your relationship. It doesn't alwayshave to lead to a sexual encounter, it can be a way to communicate your feelingsfor one another with the sense of touch we all need in our lives," explains Dr.Rishabh Batra, a clinical psychologist.
Agrees Sidharth Makhija, a37-year-old business consultant, "We all know that quality time is one of thebuilding blocks of a lasting relationship. Sensual massage is pleasing on manylevels. It ignites the flames of desire and allows you to express your love anddevotion. I have read about the impacts of massages on the Internet, and eversince I have started practicing it, my intimate relationship is blossoming andflourishing like never before."
Making way forgreat sex
Sensual massages are oftena great way to express your feelings, without words, to your partner tellingthem just how much they mean to you. A sensual and sexual massage creates theperfect mood for a night ofpassion.
Rahul Jain, a28-year-old lawyer, says, "A sexual massage actually tells your mind and body torelax. However, since it is a sexual massage, sexual tension is omnipresent,making for a night of great sex!"
"Coupleswho implement massages into their relationship often report that they feelcloser to their partners. It encourages sexual desires, so they are not justconnecting on a sensual level, but on a physical level too. This in turn buildstrust and love. It can dispel negative feelings that you may have brought homefrom work. This fosters an intense bond, which is necessary for a trulyconnected and intimate relationship between two people. Keeping your hands incontact with your partner's skin is necessary for it to be a lasting and lovingintimate relationship," explains sex therapist Dr. SimridhiSiddique
Simridhi further clarifies thatsexual intimacy does not always result from a sensual massage, but it can leadto intimate encounters as you and your partner revive love and attraction withthe simple act oftouching.
Makemassage a part of life!
"Fridayevenings or Saturday mornings are the times I find most suited for a massage totake away at least some of the stresses that we all build up through the week.It takes me about 15 minutes at the most and the sense of appreciation that Iget out from it from my husband can't be expressed in words," shares 29-year-oldShikha Bhatnagar, a designer.
Relationship expert Ratna suggests,"Try practicing a sensual massage formula three times a week for at least twoweeks and see how it improves your relationship. You may be surprised at how theboth of you look forward to the sensory ritual. And you may also be surprised athow quickly a renewed sexual attraction ensues from touchingalone."
So, the next time the two of youhave 20 minutes to yourselves, indulge not just your sense of touch, but almostall your senses. Decide if you want to carry out the massage while having along, luxurious, warm soak in the tub or in your bedroom. Either way, just makesure you have the ambiance right.
Anita Paul, a Delhi based masseuradvices, "If you choose the washroom as the pleasure sector, make sure thecandles used there are fragrant and aromatic oils are burning. If you're joiningyour partner in a tub, make sure everything is within your reach. And if you'replanning an extended session, bring in some red wine and and some aphrodisiacalfood products like caviar, chocolates and strawberries are recommended. If youplan to carry out the session in the bedroom, make sure the room is clutterfree. In case you're worried about staining the linen, put a rough sheet overyour bed. Candles, music and scented oils complete theambience."
How to go aboutit?
When you first think about asensual massage with a special person in your life, you may recoil at the idea.You may think that you really do not know what to do when it comes to a massage.But there are some resources available when it comes to learning how to performa sensual massage
If you are the adventurous sort,enrol for classes which teach you the techniques of a sensual massage. You canalso learn these techniques via the Internet or by reading pertinent books onthe subject.
Shares Deepshikha,"I read many books on massages, but was not able to apply all that was writtenin them. It was somehow not that comprehensible. Beyond books there are somegreat videos that can give you some really helpful tips, pointers and techniquesassociated with sensualmassage."
Tips on how to give agood massage:
Giving a massage is nota matter of simply pouring some oil on your partner's back and giving themgentle rub for ten minutes. In order to give a satisfactory sensual massage,there are a few things to consider. Here are a fewtips:
1.Establish aconnection: The first step in giving amassage is to make a connection with your partner. It might not be necessarythat your partner is comfortable with the ambience or with the of your handsrunning down his/her body. Try some simple exercises facing each other alongwith eye contact and some harmonized breathing to get familiar in each other'spresence.
2.Set theambience: To begin you need some relaxingenvironment. If you are going to give the massage on the bed, it must not be toosoft. If it is, use the floor, but put down a couple of blankets, along withsome soft pillows to create a firm surface. You must also have massage oil,scented candles and relaxing music. The room should be warm.
3.Getstarted: Pour the massage oil onto yourhands and rub them together to warm the oil. Then begin massaging your partner'sback with long, deep strokes, using your body weight to lean onto each stroke.Ask your partner how they're enjoying the massage. Get them to tell you whatthey like, or if it's too light or too hard. Keeping your hands in constantcontact with your partner's body, work your way across their shoulders and downtheir arms, before moving to the lower body.
4.Use yourfingertips: Vary your touch to make themassage erotic, stimulating, or playful. Allow your fingertips to play lightlyover your partner's skin so that his/her senses are heightened. Rub warm oil onyour hands and rub down your partner's back with long, soothing strokes. Avoidputting your hand flat on his/her back. Use your fingertips instead and exploreyour partner's body. Alternate your strokes - apply hard pressure and then lightones.
5.Use yourpalms: Without missing a thump, massageyour partner's back using the whole width of your hand. The firmer thetechnique, the body relaxes more. Here, it is important to note that you shouldnot rub down the 'bony areas'. Place the palms of both your hands on his/herbody and firmly move them incircles.
6.Intensify theexcitement: Using silk, feathers and furadd spice to your massage session and this can lead to some hot action in bed.Use long strokes from the legs up to the chest and face. Fur touching the facefeels sensous. It is good to be rhythmic, yet sensitive in your strokes and uselong gliding strokes followed by deep ones.
7.Finishingtouches: Giving and receiving a sensualmassage is intense business and you and your lover will certainly work up anappetite, so keep some water or even champagne handy. It is considered a goodmassage etiquette to wrap your partner in a warm, clean sheet or towel at theend of the massage. Then take a few moments to bask in theafterglow.