Anupam Kher admits to stalking a girl during school days, getting attracted to girls from English medium schools: 'There was a girl who would wear miniskirts...'

Veteran actor Anupam Kher recently took a nostalgic trip down memory lane, opening up about his views on love, relationships, and how they’ve evolved over the decades. In a candid chat, Kher not only reflected on the innocence and depth of romance in his youth but also admitted to schoolboy antics like quietly following a girl he admired.

Love Took Its Time Back Then

Speaking to Raj Shamani, the veteran actor reflected on how relationships were slower and more emotionally rooted in his younger days. Recalling his small-town upbringing, he shared that it could take months just to exchange glances, and even longer to express feelings. He also mentioned his fascination with girls from English-medium schools, drawn to their outgoing nature, especially as a Hindi-medium student himself.

A Schoolboy Crush and Quiet Admiration

He further admitted that during his school days, he was once so captivated by a girl—known for her stylish appearance and confident demeanor—that he would quietly follow her around, lacking the courage to initiate a conversation. Looking back, he reflected on how love in those days unfolded gradually and felt more enduring. According to him, relationships were built on emotional connection rather than instant gratification, and young people were more inclined to grow into love than rush into it.

Why Old-School Love Felt Deeper

When asked which generation experienced love more deeply—his or today’s—Kher confidently sided with his own. He believes love in his time was more meaningful because relationships were nurtured slowly, allowing people the space to truly understand each other. In his view, love was seen as a process of discovery, where getting to know both the good and bad in a partner took time, leading to deeper emotional bonds.

Modern Independence, New Challenges

Anupam also reflected on why modern relationships often face more conflict, attributing it to the rise in independence among both men and women. Citing his parents’ 59-year-long marriage, he noted that earlier relationships often had clearly defined roles—his father was the provider, while his mother managed the home. In contrast, today’s social structure encourages women to be educated and empowered, which he believes is a positive shift. With both partners equally independent now, he feels it's natural for traditional dynamics to evolve, and women should no longer be expected to tolerate disrespect in relationships.