Relationship tip of the day: Michelle Obama reveals the hard truth that saved her marriage - "I had to learn..."

Modern marriages are tough and they require a lot of work and effort to survive the test of time. So much so that even some of the most popular couples have had their share of challenges to solve, to keep their relationship going. Talking about this, former First Lady of the US, Michelle Obama shared one of her realest marriage advices on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon that shattered people's 'perfect' illusions of the power couple. After 34 years of being together with Barack, Michelle admitted that their love wasn't always smooth sailing. But, what made it tick for so long? Michelle revealed that they went for marriage counselling and it shifted her perspective. So, what was the turning point that changed her marriage? Read on to know Michelle Obama's secret to her happy and long marriage with Barack Obama here:



Michelle Obama's counseling confession: "I thought I was perfect..."

Speaking to Jimmy Fallon on The Tonight Show, Michelle Obama opened up about the struggles in her marriage to former US President Barack Obama. Reflecting on their journey together as a couple and how a shift in her perspective helped her marriage survive the test of time, Michelle Obama shared, "Marriage is hard, even for us. We have a great relationship. But the thing about marriage counseling is, like, I was one of those wives who thought, 'I'm taking you to marriage counseling so you can be fixed, Barack Obama.' Because I was like, 'I'm perfect.' I was like, 'Dr. X, please fix him.' And then, our counselor looked over at me. I was like, 'What are you looking at? I'm perfect.' But marriage counseling was a turning point for me, understanding that it wasn't up to my husband to make me happy, that I had to learn how to fill myself, and have to put myself higher on my priority list. So, I share that because there are a lot of young people who look at me and Barack, and you and your wife, and people they see, and they think, 'Oh, I want those #relationshipgoals.' But I want you people to know that marriage is work. Even the best marriages require work. I call them a 'vexation.' It's a choice that you make again and again and again. Because I don't want young people to quit the minute they have a hardship. Because I always say, 'Look, if you're married for 50 years, and 10 of them are horrible, you're doing really good.'"

The woman who danced beside the former President admitted that she needed a mindset reset. Now, that's a confession that's relatable to many married women.






The hard truth: Your happiness isn't your partner's job

Michelle's golden nugget: "It wasn't up to my husband to make me happy."

Most people marry expecting eternal fireworks after their wedding, but life hits - kids, careers, stress. Suddenly, your partner's "flaws" feel like failures. Michelle's advice: Fill your own cup first. Find happiness in your hobbies, friends, and self-care-- this will help prevent resentment in your relationship. Remember, the happier you are the better your partner will be. When Barack couldn't "fix" her stress; she rebuilt her inner peace and happiness.

Michelle Obama's honest talk reveals their human side: Even Obamas weathered storms in their marriage. And, counseling changed Michelle from blame-game to self-growth.

The bottom line: Michelle didn't "fix" Barack. She fixed her expectations instead. Remember, your marriage survives when you are happy with yourself first.