In recent times, one of the subjects from which the curtain is being lifted is the issue of sexless marriages. It is not a new problem — the stereotype of “the frigid, disinterested wife who doesn’t understand me” is possibly the oldest pick-up line in the book — but we have been made to understand that it is only women who go off sex, leaving the poor men high and dry. And although that is sometimes the case, it is a stereotype that has been encouraged because “pleasure” somehow has always been seen as a man’s privilege. Women are not supposed to know about it and they are definitely not supposed to want it.Leading sexpert Seema Anand explains how most people fail to understand that pleasure can manifest in a million different ways, and the steps to follow to make intimacy part of your lives.