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Jealousy: 10 signs of this damaging trait and how to fix it

TIMESOFINDIA.COM | Last updated on - Oct 5, 2022, 12:57 IST
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​Jealousy is a damaging behaviour​

While people who have it often don't know about it, jealousy as a trait overpowers the good side of the brain.

It is very important to keep this trait in check or else it might lead to irreversible harm to your image and reputation. A jealous person, once spotted, is never left without being made to realise that he/she is one. It is therefore very essential to understand this trait and minimise its control over you.

Read: Did you know your body eats itself daily?

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​Here are 10 signs of jealousy​

Lack of trust: Jealous people often trust those who fuel their jealousy or support the cause of their jealousy. For others, these people are unable to develop a sense of trust. A lack of trust combined with a feeling of insecurity makes a person helpless and powerless.

Insecurity: The biggest weapon of jealousy is insecurity. It renders a person weak and disables their mental ability to be confident. The insecurity associated with jealousy instills fear, rage, anger and frustration in an individual.

Lower confidence: Jealousy drains out the confidence in a person. Jealousy takes over a person's mental space with much ease when the person lacks confidence.

Lower self-esteem: A person filled with jealousy always lacks self-esteem and self-trust.

Suspicious: A jealous person finds it hard to believe others. A sense of negativity brews in their mind always.

Over dominant: Often seen in relationships, jealous people try to control their partners.

Irritability: It is very easy to irritate a person who is jealous of others. Just mentioning those people before them can irritate them.

Negative judgment: Even if they know the truth, jealous people tend to give negative opinions about others.

Happy with others' distress and vice versa: In some ways, people who are jealous of others tend to be happy when the other people face setbacks and become unhappy if something good happens to them.

Lack of self-acceptance: These people are always seen comparing themselves with others and weighing their pros and cons with others.

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​How does jealousy affect you?​

Often listed as one of the reasons for arguments and disputes, jealousy is very damaging in nature.

It induces a feeling of inadequacy, a feeling of being lost, deprived and being a lesser person. Jealousy can bring in unnecessary stress in an individual and there is a greater chance of this being escalated to depression.

It takes a bad toll on the mental health of the individual which subsequently harms the physical well being of the person as well.

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​Jealousy vs. competitiveness​

A jealous person will feel bad for the achievements of his or her friend, but a competitive person feels bad when he or she achieves less.

There is a thin line of difference between jealousy and competitiveness as both of these people are always focused on "what is yet to be done".

A jealous person sees others as competitors, a competitive person sees others as well as self as competitors.

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​How can you fix it?​

If you realise that you are being jealous over certain things, it is advisable to speak to someone about it.

Keep yourself distracted from the person whom you are jealous with.

Try to feed your mind with positivity. Read books that have a positive meaning.

Maintain a journal of quotes and quotations of positivity and goodness.

If these things do not help, always seek the advice of an expert. The sooner you start this, the quicker you can get rid of it.

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​The fact to consider is "nobody is better off than you"​

Jealousy stems from the fact that somebody is better off than you. The innate quality of human beings to judge self through the lens of others, gives rise to this kind of emotion which impairs the man's ability to see his or her own true worth.

In order to get rid of this, you need to understand that nobody is as unique as you in this world. You are one in a million. If you feel somebody is better than you, it is just because you feel it that way; other than this there is no truth in it.

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