The surprising truth of premature ejaculation

Are you really ejaculating early? Whether we are talking about lions or the red deer or monkeys or bats, they all share one thing that we don’t, despite the fact that we all have sex and are mammals - their intercourse is quick as lightning. For them it is acting on the sexual impulse, doing it and withdrawing to get back to running, hunting or sleeping. But, for us? The millennials are dying to increase the duration of their intercourse. Are you really ejaculating early?

Have we set our expectations too high? We are the only specie among mammals who want to have an extended intercourse, merely to draw maximum pleasure out of it. When men are not able to perform long enough to satisfy their partners, they cringe, whine and blame themselves, often even losing self-confidence. But how soon is it to ejaculate prematurely? Have we set our expectations too high?

Average ejaculation time: An average guy lasts somewhere about six minutes in intercourse. An average man in America lasts 13 minutes, in Europe 10 minutes, in Germany 7 minutes and it drops even further in India.

Long penises bad for endurance: The endurance of the species or the human race, that is. A long, pornstar-like penis may actually be bad for copulating more, said Dr Brian Steixner, Institute of Men’s Health, Atlantic City. This is because when men last less, the chances of more kids are better. More offspring means more endurance for the human race.

PE most common sexual dysfunction in men: Dr Steixner said that PE is by far the most common sexual dysfunction in men that he has seen in his practice. It is also the most tragic because it can very easily escalate to erectile dysfunction and can get difficult to treat. This happens because men’s expectations about their performance is impossible, he said.

Are you really ejaculating prematurely? Doctors say that most often they have to struggle to explain to men that they are not suffering from premature ejaculation. The serious and pathological cases in which the men cannot last for more than a minute are merely one per cent of the total cases they come across!

Ejaculating early may actually be healthy: Dr Steixner said that he comes across many patients who want to be ‘cured’ desperately. He tries to explain to such men that their conditions are absolutely normal and if anything, they are superior evolution wise. But because this does not solve much, he has to offer them treatment.

PE treatment: Kegel exercise is something that men do not prefer because they mostly want a quick fix, complained Dr Steixner. The other ways to ‘cure’ PE is through sprays or inhibitors that numb sensation or even surgery that cuts the nerves on the man’s penis, which helps in reducing sensation.

But, do you really need a treatment? Performing long is only a socially constructed expectation and the best way to ‘cure’ yourself is to realize this. You must understand that ejaculating is a nervous process which is largely beyond your voluntary control. No man or his partner should compare their performance to what they see in porn movies. That’s unrealistic. Also, indulge in more foreplay and focus on other areas besides only penetration as less focus on penis will reduce anxiety and can lead to better performance. (All images from Shutterstock)