5 people share their experience of talking to a sex therapist

Sex can be an unexpected ride or journey that’s bound to give you utmost pleasure and joy. However, with heaps of sexual desire comes problems and confusions. Most people face different kinds of issues when it comes to getting sexually aroused. And so, people tend to take medical advice or visit a therapist to deal with any emotional or physical problems that might have been hampering their sexual health. Sex therapists can be really helpful when you’re absolutely clueless about sexual experiences. In account of this, we bring to you 5 people who share their experience of talking to a sex therapist.

“In the beginning, I thought I just couldn’t talk to people or maybe get attracted to them. At an age where everyone was going on dates and proposing to other people, I stayed clueless about my sexual identity. And so, I decided to see a sex therapist who informed me that it was alright to not be sexually attracted to people. She calmly told me that I was asexual. It somehow calmed me down.”

Riya, 24 years old

“I always felt pressured to please my partner in bed and somehow, I thought I was never good at it. And so, I just couldn’t get aroused easily. I was pretty embarrassed and visited the doctor but found out that it was not an external issue I was dealing with. Talking to a sex therapist made me realise it was within me; my low self-esteem and lack of confidence restricted me from enjoying it completrely.”

Anonymous

“I’m great in bed but I just can’t seem to emotionally attach myself to a person. I visited a relationship and sex therapist to understand why I have been so distant from people. Turns out I consider sex to be the sole basis of a relationship unintentionally, and not love or trust. It was a great revelation.”

Rishav, 26 years old

“I haven’t been able to engage in sex freely ever since I’ve been getting traumatic memories of my childhood. My friend recommended consulting a therapist and since then it has been quite a journey. He has been helping me by getting over the trauma I had faced. After countless meetings, conversations and tears, I have finally started to like sex for what it is. Therapy really helps.”

Samhita, 29 years old

“I liked being the one in control and that has faired quite well for me in the past few casual relationships. However, even though I was emotionally in control, I felt a significant lack of healthy sexual desire. I had difficulty having sex with my partners. I consulted a therapist and she pointed out that the number of casual relationships was affecting my ability to sexually connect with the one I’m meant to be. Even though soulmates is a distant idea, she convinced me. And it has been helping me out pretty well!”

Farhan, 27 years old