I live in Kerala, and my wife and I occasionally visit Bangalore to stay with my son and his family. Whenever we are there, my grandson spends a lot of time on my mobile phone. I try to be firm with him, but cannot make myself be harsh or angry. However, he takes advantage of my soft nature and continues to snatch the mobile from me whenever he can. I feel guilty of spoiling him and aiding his mobile addiction. My family constantly blames me for my inability to prevent him from using my phone. What should I do?
Mobile addiction is a growing concern, especially among the younger population. Young children are not able to discriminate between harmless and harmful activities, they go by pleasure principle. In other words, they will always be tempted to do what pleases them and we as adults have to guide them. This has nothing to do with being harsh, it’s a duty we adults have. Look at it this way, if your grandson insisted on drinking an alcoholic beverage, would you let him because you don’t want to seem harsh? Similarly, mobile and Internet use, social media etc are not useful activities for young children and can cause harm when excessively indulged in. Secondly, the family should develop a consensus on time and activities allowed on internet devices and follow it. Also, children learn from adult behaviour, so limit your own use of mobile phones and indulge in more fruitful exercises like reading books, board games, art, craft, games etc.
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